#WhyWeHost Reason #3: Because it is God's design

The Barker Family Story

"Our family has always been a host family in retrospect.  I believe that God has been preparing both my husband and I to host for a long time.  Even before we had our daughter Aubrey, the neighborhood children would randomly come hang out with us.  Tyler, my husband, was always outside working on something... the yard, cars or bicycles.  I often sat with him, just being there.  The neighborhood kids would stop to see what we were doing, I'd offer them a soda, and that was that.  We would have a daily visitor.

Tyler and I moved from our starter home after the birth of our daughter.  When we landed at Tyler's childhood home in the country, we thought that would be the end of the neighborhood kids.  God however has a sense of humor and at that house it was actually worse.  Now that Aubrey was two, they would come over to "play with Aubrey."  In reality, the boys would be outside with Tyler and the girls and I would be cooking, chatting, playing with Aubrey and having a good time.

As time went forward, we moved once again to our forever (we think) home.  The hustle and bustle stopped.  To me the house seemed so empty.  We only had one neighbor kid that would come over.  Tyler and I had heard of Safe Families at church and had been sitting on the idea for some time.  Now that the flow of extra children had stopped it seemed like a feasible idea.

We began the process of becoming a host family through Safe Families.  God has worked on our hearts for many years, the neighborhood kids having stories of their own.  Our first family has a story as well.  

Our first placement was unusual, it was a part-time placement that lasted for almost 7 months.  After spending so many weekends together, the children felt like a part of our family.  What an adventure we had together!  We introduced the children to camping, paddle boats, canoeing, they met our extended family, became part of our church family and our small group family.  How amazing it was to watch their confidence soar and see the love around them comfort them.

You see, we became a host family to change children and families lives.  We did, and I know that the children we hosted had a season of life that will never be taken from them.  They feel the value of who they are and know that there are many good people in this world. And that was my goal.

God, however, has a goal so much bigger than our one track minds.  While we were busy changing the children's lives, the children were busy changing the world.  Those two children changed the heart of not only myself, Tyler and Aubrey, they changed the heart of our extended family, our small group, our church family and even people whom we met camping and will never see again.  In each of these people a new idea was formed.  An idea that a person is a person, just like Horton says, no matter their circumstance, the way they look or the way they speak.  A person is a person and they are Gods children, no different.  A work has begun in the hearts of many, and this work will never be taken from them.

I want to end with this point.  Safe families is not simply about helping families in crisis.  It is Gods design of a bigger picture.  God put us on this earth to love each other.  That is Safe Families design as well.  To open your home and to love.  Cherish the change in all of us.  The whole encompassing circle around these families we serve will never again be the same, because we all now know a different way, and that can't be taken from us.

If I could list how many people have been touched just by this one family in crisis, it would begin with me and spiral all the way to that one woman in line at the grocery store that saw us interacting together and loving one another.  Her question to me from three people back in line was "Are they all yours?"  My response was, "we are a host family for Safe Families, to get more info you can Google it.  No, they are not all mine, but I sure do love them all."  A work begun...even in the line at the grocery store. Observers are around us that I will never even know, yet the seed is planted just the same.  Beautiful."

Jenn and Tyler Barker

Aubrey Barker

Thank you Jennifer, Tyler and Aubrey Barker for sharing your hearts, your home, and your Safe Families story.  To learn more about Safe Families in your area, or for more information about hosting, contact ejohnson@safefamilies.net

A Big Effort

Allow me to take a moment to pull you into a a BIG effort by Safe Families of Madison County.  In case you are not yet familiar, I'll explain.  Safe Families allows parents who are in crisis to voluntarily choose to place their child in the home of a host family, while the parent works to get back on their feet.  Our host families are intentionally recruited through churches; they are screened, trained and they are not paid.  We refer to what we do as less of a "program" and more of an opportunity for people to help people.  Novel idea isn't it?  We have facilitated over 160 placements and recruited over 22 host families since our inception in Madison County in March of 2013.  

A snapshot of those numbers looks like this:

• a homeless family of 6 now has a home after a 5 week placement
• a 6 year old girl raised by her grandmother with terminal cancer has been adopted by her host family
• a mother of 5 with no utilities in her home established a new job and was able to pay her utilities…plus her kids had the best summer ever!
• a mother of 5 was able to complete her goals by completing CNA training and moving out of her tiny apartment

There is no doubt we are meant to be here in Madison County, serving families in crisis by meeting their immediate needs and connecting them with loving host families who care for their children with the love of Jesus.

Now, our biggest needs are in the area of fundraising.  Safe Families not only prevents families from falling unnecessarily into the hands of the foster care system  but is also considered to be a child abuse prevention program.  In the past, Safe Families has been supported financially by means of prevention dollars--dollars that our state sets aside to assist prevention programs.  However, in recent months, our state has decided to disallow the continuance of these funds, leaving a significant deficit in our budget…and unfortunately we cannot do what we do without funding.

On average, our cost of helping a child is $150.00 and helping a family costs approximately $500.00  On the contrary, a child going into foster care costs about $1,200.00 - $1,300.00  The foster care system is a program that we do need!  However, some families want better for themselves and for their children…they just can't do it without support.  

Safe Families is embracing this change in funding and seeking the support of churches and benevolent people more than ever!  This organization is a movement that equips the church to re-engage with the weak, the needy and the fatherless…just as we were meant to do!  Our sustainability is falling largely into the hands of generous people and the church; and perhaps that is God's desire for us!

The current fundraising effort is to raise a much needed $10,000 for Safe Families of Madison County.  $5,000 of those dollars are match dollars, which means as soon as we are able to raise $5,000 in online donations, our match dollars will kick in.  You can click on the image on the right and go directly to our Safe Families of Madison County fundraising page, via Crowdrise.  Your willingness to do this will help shine love and peace into these kiddos and their families.  Please share this campaign after you give, doing so would help us out in two ways:

1.  Spread Awareness.  Whether you are local to Madison County or not, the word about Safe Families needs to get out there.  This is movement that seeks to start wherever willing hears and minds lie! 

2.  Gain Donations.  Please share via social media the fact that you donated through this campaign and a bit about why you decided to give to us.

Safe Families is only as strong as the people who step forward to support us with your time, your energy, your finances and your resources.  God has done incredible work here so far, and we know there is more to come!  Check out how Safe Families in Madison County got started and consider where you fit in.